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Last week I blogged about how I helped a team decide if they wanted to split.
This week I will write about how I helped teams to do their split. By now, I have been using this technique with multiple teams, their sizes vary from 40 till 7.

Warning:
If you want to use this technique, I want to stress that it’s crucial that the team itself wants to split. I was myself part of a group where this technique was used, when we were not convinced that the split was needed. That was a disaster. If you don’t want to take the time for a team to decide if they need to split, you might as well decide on the split yourself.

Please read my previous post, to have an idea how I did that in one occasion.

Ok, by now your team has decided that they want to split. In a lot of cases, they will come back to you and say, please help us, we don’t know how to split our self up.
In most cases, what they mean is: make the decision for us.

Or to put it more bluntly: “I don’t like to say to person X I prefer these other people over you.”

People have told me, they did not like that, as it made them think of in school they had to select someone for sport or other activities. As someone who was bad at most sports and frequently selected last, I can see people don’t like that.

This technique is different, it does not let one person select, and there is no one selected first or last. Also this technique won’t help you as a manager or coach to select your dream team.

The team does not want to do it. You can’t either.

With this, you will help your team to self–organize in multiple sub-teams.



What you need: a large empty room.
I have used meeting rooms where we put all the tables and chairs to one site.

Then I ask the team to walk around in silence.
I ask them to feel the atmosphere. I tell them that won’t give them any criteria to decide. I also tell them I will not ask them to discuss criteria. The reasoning behind that, is that when you discuss criteria, you are looking for an agreement up front, and then people will come up with lots and lots of criteria they want everyone they agree upon. Which only slows down the process and usually does not help. (If you disagree, please read on, and at the end I will explain how I solve this.)

I ask them to form groups. (In some cases they agreed up front in the decision part about splitting up, how many teams they want. Yet I have seen teams split up in a different number and feel ok with it.)

I tell them that the way we will select teams is by physically standing together.  As long as they are not happy with the TOTAL result they should be moving.

That simple? Yes that simple. Yet as most simple things not easy.

How long does this take?
I have seen a team do this in less then 30 minutes and another team needed a few days for it.

How many facilitators does this need?

2. One to help the group stay quite and sometimes facilitate some questions. And one to talk people who have a hard time.

Does this get emotional?
yes. This is why you need a second facilitator that can have a person chat with people for who this becomes to emotional.

Does this guarantee the best team split?
No, not at all. Yet I know this is a much better split then any manager of coach can come up with.

What if there are some real constraints on how to split up the team, like every team should at least be able to do x?
For that I trust the people of the team. I know that there are multiple spoken and unspoken rules that these new teams have to follow. When you start discussing these rules -especially the unspoken ones- you have discussion and create separation in the total group.
When you don’t discuss them. The people that care about a certain rule, will not be happy with the end result. These people will keep moving. In the end, everyone will be happy, even if people might not agree on all the rules that everyone individually had for herself.

Could you give a few examples when things get tough?
Good question. yes I can and will.
1) It’s their fault
In one of the teams, the original problem that let to the desire of splitting up, was not solved after one of the moments that people stopped moving. (They wanted to split up a sub-team that customers complained about. And these people where still together, now with a few more people. )  When I asked if everyone was happy, one person complained that the people where still together and that they boycotted the process. I told him that although it was true that these people where together. I disagreed that it was only their fault. As everyone had been moving. So if everyone really wanted the split, they should all behave like it.
This seems to be typically. People prefer to put the blame on others, yet they don’t see how their own behavior had also on influence.

2) It does not work. Yves, you have to choose the team split…

This was a funny or maybe sad reaction. The team where this reaction came, they had been discussing before about the reasons for changing the team. One of the main reason that came up why the last set up did not work, was done my boss and the person who was in my job before. When someone said: “it does not work” (and multiple other were nodding)
I looked at them. I could not find my words. I looked at them for a full minute, and then I said something like: I don’t understand. You wanted another team split, as the previous one was done by x & y. And now you tell me I have to do it?
No. I refuse to. I have told you when I started, that I would give you tools that would help you to take decisions on your own. I could not explain then, what I ment. Well this is one of these tools.
When I said that last sentence, I looked around. I could see in their eyes, that it clicked. They started to walk around and some time later, they ended up with a team I would never have selected. Later a few team member told me, that was the moment she first understood what a self-organizing team really was about.

This our my slides for My presentation on the Microsoft Webcafe today at PHL.

- Did you recently joined a new team?
- Do you plan to join a new team in the next years?
- Do you plan to welcome a new team member in your team, in the comming year?
If you said yes to one (or more) of these questions, you should watch these slides and you will learn about the power that a junior team member has.
A power that that senior’s don’t have. A power that will help you to grow yourself and your team.
During the preparation of this talk, with all the feedback I have received, I decide that I should turn this into a book.
If you are interested, please go to the leanpub website and tell me about it..

When we talk about thinking outside a box, lots of people have the tendency to say we should not have a box.
I used to think I was very open minded and I did not think inside a box. That in itself is “a box”.
The last years as a coach, my questions are more around helping people realizing they are always inside a box. (or actually more boxes)
Once they know that, we can work on finding the boxes.

When I was reading Personal Kanban, I read about a pedometer. A small device that tracks my steps and helps me visualize how much movement I make (or not make).
When I read it, I was convinced, which is funny as I gave that to my brother-in-law a few years ago as a (requested) gift and I was not convinced at the time [box 1]

When I had mine, I quickly realized that my movement was even worse then what I assumed. (the biggest value of Visual management) as the problem is always worse then what you think of.

When I realized that, I started looking how I could move more.

I could hardly find any:

- I work full time for my clients
- I have a company to run
- I have 3 young kids
- etc etc

>> Yes: all kinds of excuses. Easy to see from a distance, but when you are in the situation, they all look valid. (And they are valid.) [Box nr 2]

So I shifting my coaching question to myself.
The internal conversation went something like this:

Why do I try to coach myself? Why don’t I wait to ask my personal coaches, to help me on this one?
Nah, I am waiting on a train, I have some time to think about that.
True, but with my coaches, thinks might go faster
Mm, I feel some resistance here. Let’s drop the resistance. [Removing box 3, that says I need a coach to change myself]
Ok, if I can do this myself, let’s see what box I am in.

After a while (no idea how long) I found a box:

One box, is that I can’t move more with my current life. [Box 2]
Part of that box, is that all these movements need to be large movements. [Box 4]
Haha, but that is why I have the pedometer, to see the total of the day.

- I already take the stairs instead of the elevator at work as much as possible.
- I go by foot or bike to the trainstation.

What else can I do?
And then it struck me. I was standing at the train station and I was waiting already 10 minutes.
Instead of standing still like everyone, I might as well walk while waiting.
And so I did.

More important, I did this the last 6 months every day I took the train.
Every morning when I arrive at the train station I walk in circles/ellipses while waiting.

side effects:
I don’t rush to get my train anymore.
If I arrive a few minutes earlier, it’s no longer a loss. It’s a gain.

Still left to improvement:
I don’t have the same habit in the evening. I do it from time to time, but not as regular.

Update: Other options would be to have a treadmill desk. Read a diary of one user here.

So what box are you in?

In the agile world we have lots of people that have some kind of musical background.When I started presenting, I had the feeling I had to have original content. As if I could only be a good presenter with original content.Now I know that my presenter gift is story telling.  It doesn’t matter who’s content it is.
Jurgen received some critique for his management book because he was recycling others’ ideas, but I don’t mind. Actually, it’s one of the things I like about his book.(It’s also not true as he has some great toolsin the book.)If I think some further, agile is doing the same. We are gathering great practises and combine them in supporting frameworks.

Some time ago when I first had the idea to write a book, I told myself that whatever I wanted to do, I only wanted to add my ideas to a book, if they were significantly better then things I knew from other people.

Just as a lot of coaches I have an ego, yet it’s not that big that I think my ideas are better then everyone else’s. And then it struck me. That is exactly what I did as a DJ. I played other people’s songs to give my audience a good time. Although I’m not the one writing songs, I am the one throwing great parties. (I see kanban, scrum, TDD as songs). I see my role in the agile community more as a story teller, making publicity for others people songs.

My friend, Johanna told me I could write content, yes I know just like I know some DJs are making music or we have cover bands. I think that if you want to entertain an adult crowd, your songs have to be of great quality. Until now I don’t think I added new songs of quality. Don’t understand me wrong, I don’t mean that in a negative way. I am very proud of my story telling and my mixing of others people songs.

And I think that when you go to an unknown audience you are better of with a collection of CDs than your own songs. Or in coaching language, with any company you are better off with an unlimited tool set than just with your own invented framework.

And yes, some DJ’s only do one genre. And as an audience member, it’s great to go to a rock party or a Gothic event, it’s great because everyone expects this and we all have a good time. And it’s easy as a DJ as he or she can predict what songs the audience will love.
It’s a lot harder at a wedding or a party in a holiday center disco.  There you have all kinds of people, some from countries you have never heard of. You have no idea what songs or even genres they like.

That’s the job of the typical coach who is called in to make an organization agile. When I go into an organisation, I have to blend practises from many cultures to fit the company culture.

Yes I could focus on scrum because that is trendy today, but at some parties that latest bilboard hot 100 song just won’t work. And for some company cultures La Bamba might work and others don’t like touchy feely stuff…

The larger your tool set, the more chance you have to find the sweet spot of an organization. With a DJ people have the habit of asking for songs they like. Some people have to have fun before they will ask for a song. Others will requests songs because they want to help you to start the party. With a band we will expect them to have their own set list.

And yes when I coach, people expect to want a silver bullet from me. (Just like a 16 year old expects the band to play the perfect love song to seduce that beautiful girl he has been watching all night.) As a DJ it’s easier to find the perfect mood.

People don’t like it when I want to listen to them, to know what songs or solution would work.  But for me it’s easier as a coach with a public toolbox then one with my own theories.

The next person on the Who is series, is Bob Marshall, better known as @flowchainsensei. (Wikipedia has never heard of our bob)

I think that Bob is the only person I personally invited that I think I have not met in person. I don’t need to. Bob is so vocal on his twitterfeed, I know who he is and thinks. Thanks to Bob I know the RightShifting movement. He is also one of the few agile people who has an evil counterpart on twitter. (I guess that is a side effect of his clear, to the point statements.) Out of respect for Bob I don’t link to the account.

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What is something people usually don’t know about you but has influenced you in who you are?

Most folks in London know  I ride a motorcycle, but that may not be apparent to folks farther afield. Further than that though, I also consider myself a biker, which is more of a lifestyle choice and mindset than simple a choice of transportation mode.

If you would not have been in IT, what would have become of you?

Actually, I don’t consider myself “in IT”. Both because I don’t believe software development should have ever been co-located/conflated with IT, and because most of what I do relates to people.
As to an alternate life-path,  most likely I would have become an industrial model-maker. I did have a thriving commercial model-making business whilst (still) at school, plus a job offer back then from the UK’s leading industrial model-making company. I have yet to begin my second career – although I have long had it picked-out – being an intention to start a new “religion”. :Q (And no, Rightshifting is not a religion, as fas as I’m concerned, at least).

What is your biggest challenge and why is it a good thing for you?

My biggest challenge – for thirty years and more, until recently - was to understand just why software development was (and remains) so universally poor. Now I feel I have uncovered the answer to that mystery.

So my biggest challenge presently is to find a means to share that insight in ways that folks can use, practically, for the advantage of everyone working in software development, and, given the near-ubiquity of software today – for society at large, too. This recent new challenge has been a good thing because it has driven me to long and deep study of human motivation, individual and group psychology, neuroscience, and such like.

What drives you ?
People, people and people. Tech and gadgets are neat toys, or intellectual puzzles, but seeing people realise even a part of their innate potential is what gets me out of bed every morning (literally and metaphorically).

What is your biggest achievement?

My biggest achievement is not really for me to claim. Others may be better placed to proffer an answer. But if pressed, I might reply that my biggest achievement is what other folks who have worked with me say about my contribution to their lives.

What is the last book you have read?

Tricky, given I have about fifteen started-but-not-yet-finished books in my iPad and another ten or so in my “legacy” (dead tree) pile.
The one that most immediately springs to mind is Margaret Wheatley‘s excellent “Leadership and the New Science“.

What question do you think I should also ask and what is the answer?

How about “why do so many business improvement projects (ie agile adoptions) fail?” And the answer is “because folks fail to recognize the true nature of the challenges involved, and thus use inappropriate approaches”.

Who do you think I should ask next?

There are so many fine folks in e.g. the agile, lean and twitter communities, I’m sure I’d offend many by omission. But despite such risk,  I’d suggest maybe Benjamin Mitchell, Grant Rule, or David Joyce.

The next person in our “Who is” series is Rachel Davies. Not the actrice Rachel Davies but the agile coach Rachel Davies. I met her at XPday Benelux 2004. I followed lots of  her sessions since. The session that I remember most is her Keeping the furniture police at bay. So much I invited her and Emmanuel Gaillot to do a Retrospective workshops for PairCoaching.net. If you like any of my ideas on Retrospectives, thank Rachel. You can do so by buying her book. (Ok I’m exaggerating, I learned a lot from Agile Retrospectives as well.

What is something people usually don’t know about you but has influenced you in who you are?

Even though I have spent most of my career working as a programmer, my degree is in Philosophy. Through studying Philosophy, I learned not to become too attached to ideas, to question assumptions and practice shifting perspectives to reach a deeper understanding. This practice is useful when trying to understand the underlying beliefs that people hold and not to let those differences get in the way of working with them.

Another aspect of my life is that I come from a family of keen gardeners. As a child I learned to identify all sorts of wild flowers when we went for walks. I find plants of all kinds very beautiful and love to watch them change and grow through the seasons. I particularly love old trees because I like to reflect on how things life has changed as they have grown up around us. I also like to seek out ancient stone circles because I like to think about how people walked and lived in the same places hundreds of years ago.

If you would not have been in IT, what would have become of you?

I’m not really sure. When I finished university I realised that there was not a very obvious career path for someone with a degree in Philosophy. I applied for all sorts of jobs with no luck. I decided to study software engineering and was really excited with how creative it is.

What is your biggest challenge and why is it a good thing for you?

My biggest challenge is not too take on too many things to work on, especially volunteering for conference organising roles. This year I have been a chair of XP2011 conference in Spain, helping Manav Mehan with UK Agile Coaches Gathering and also Open Jam at Agile2011 I have a passion about getting people together to share experiences and conferences are a great way to energise people and encourage change. Even though, conference organising may seem a diversion from my client work, sometimes it puts me in touch with new people to work with. I often get free registration but this doesn’t really compensate for all the hours spent on emails and skype calls. I think the real benefit is working with a team of other volunteers to create a special experience that will boost people’s energy around Agile development. When I chaired Agile2008 in Toronto, I really felt like a Product Owner shaping something new.

What question do you think I should also ask and what is the answer?

I think you might ask how much time I spend coaching these days. The answer is not much. It’s been about six months since I coached a team. I am puzzling over this because I do enjoy coaching teams and would like that to be a bigger proportion of what I do. It seems that the role of agile coach has now become more ubiquitous and in the UK is now something that companies source through job agencies. The number of years experience required seems to be less and perhaps people think I might be too expensive because I am a book author not actually the case :-) I am enjoying running workshop style training courses for coaches who want to improve their skills in coaching teams – the next one will be 25 August.

What drives you ?

I hate to see people asked to do pointless things in the name of process. I love to see a people collaborate to build a better product. I am driven to help people work more effectively together.

What is your biggest achievement?

In the realm of work, this has to be writing “Agile Coaching” book with Liz Sedley . I am so pleased to hear from people that they found it easy to read and picked up useful ideas. The team at Pragmatic Bookshelf provides great support for new authors so it’s a great place to get started and they’re always looking for new authors

What is the last book you have read?

A book called Psychiatric Tales

Who should be the next person to answer these questions?

Steve Freeman.

Agile Games Promo with Sponsors from Lollie Videography on Vimeo.

I missed again Agile Games this year, this video makes me regret it even more…
;-)


Yes, I stole this title from a popular book in the 80ties. I think this is one of the books I heard my parents recommend most to other people.

Over the years I came to realise this is one of the major mindsets of agile. Think positive of everyone involved.

When we give feedback, it’s about the actions of people and not about the people. Same thing goes for receiving feedback, when people criticize me, I know they are actually criticize my actions. (Even if they tell it in a personal attack.)
There are multiple techniques that help in creating feedback. I prefer my own improvement game(which is an adaptation of the perfection game).

Let’s do a little exercise:

Think back about your work. Do you think that most of the time you do the best work you can, considering your knowledge and the circumstances?
When I ask this at a conference, between 80 and 90% of my audience puts up their hand to say they do.

Now think about the people around you. Do you think they are doing the same? From these same audiences, about 50% of the people who raised their hands, drop it. Statistically that is not possible.
You can be all (of the 80%) doing the best you can and at the same time 50% else is not doing that.

I see a few reasons why there is this difference.
- only great people come to my talks. ;-)

This reminds me about a question Dr Covey asks in his workshops: “Who thinks her boss should be here in the workshop instead of you?” At the workshop I was, 80% raised a hand. Just like Dr Covey I think I have a the right people in the room.

- people are lying about their own performance.
I don’t believe this.

- people overestimate their own enthusiasm. If that is true, it won’t be for 40% of the people
- people underestimate their colleagues performance.
I think the chances are much higher that people underestimate what others do (and overestimate what these people can do considering the circumstances), they over estimate their own work.
Part of that is because we value other people based on our own situation. Now neither the knowledge and the situation of the other person are like ours. So we think that the other person is misbehaving/ underachieving based on assumptions. (Called fundamental attribution error.)

The prime directive is about this difference. It wants us to see people with respect.

Yes I am aware that 1% of the population are psychopaths. I might even have met one. As long as I wanted to work with there, I took the responsibility to think as much as possible positive about him (I could not do this the days he asked me to lie to customers.)
Learning about transactional analysis helped me to understand difference between the dynamics I see in a good agile team and those of a bad agile team.
I learned that in good agile team at least one person is able to cross transactions and not stay stuck in a paralel transaction.

The whole TA also helps to see how people are talking. If they are acting as a child, a parent or an adult. (I’m using the TA meaning of P,A,C. All these terms are positive terms. )

Remember next time someone does something you don’t understand (or agree with): I’m OK, you’re OK.

As an agile coach I try to apply agile principles to a lot of parts of my life.
One of these places is reading books.
As you can see on my libarything or my kindle read page, I read a lot of books.
95% of these books are non-fiction.

I love reading and I also love my time.
When I read a book and I don’t have the right state of mind for that book. I stop reading it. Then I select another book that has a better match with my mood.

To do this with dead-tree books, I needed at least 3 books in my backpack.
And a few dozens at home. To be able to select what I want to read when I started reading a new book, I bought almost every book that interests me immediatly.

The problem with this, is that it costs me a lot of money at a moment I did not have time for a book. In lean we would call this inventory.
This invenory becomes waste when a new version of the book comes out before I have read it. (I have at least 10 books like that in my library)
Its even worse when a I loose interest in a book before I read it.
This happens (a lot) when it’s a book about a technology that I no longer use.

When I bought my kindle I changed my buying pattern. My kindle offers me the opportunity to buy a book whereever I am. And I have the book, in less then a minute on my kindle.

To keep track of the books I want to read, I download the sample of the book.
I have at this point 194 sample books on my kindle. I know because I add them to a category “ToRead”.
When I want to start to read a new book, I read the sample book. If it is what I want to read, I buy the book and add it to a category “Reading”. (I remove the sample book at that time.)
When I have read the book, I add it to a categoy “Read”.

The effect is that I never buy books anymore that I don’t read.
Except for the books that don’t exist on kindle. Yes I still buy some of those, but unfortunately for these authors, I don’t read them. [hint hint]

Although this looks bad for the book business, I don’t think it is. I actually read a lot more books then before. And books that I have read are books that I recommend. (OK only if I like them ;-) )

Now I don’t only limit the number of books I ‘m buying, because I have a category with books I’m reading, I am reminded about the other books I am reading.
When I want to read something else, I have more chance of restarting one I already started.
Because it is visual I now try to limit myself to reading 6 books at the same time.

Let’s recap what agile idea’s I’m using to read more books:

- Reducing waste
- Limit read/books in progress
- Stop starting, start stopping
- Visual Management


 

A nice talk of Brene Brown
Quote’s I liked:

  • These people had the courage to be imperfect
  • They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first (and then to others)
  • We can’t practice compassion with others, if we can’t treat ourselves kindly
  • They had connection because of authenticity. they were willing to let go of who they should be, in order to be who they were.
  • they fully embraced vulnerability.
  • that what makes them vulnerable made them beautifull
  • The willingness to :
    • say I love you first
    • do something where  there are no guarantees
    • the willingness to invest in a relationship that will or will not work out
  • the way to live is with vulnerability and to stop controlling and predicting
  • I lost, .. the fight but probably, won my life back…
  • when we numb, we numb everything
  • how blame is described in the research: a way to discharge and discomfort
  • our job as a parent is: you are imperfect and you are wired for struggle but you are wurthy of love and belonging
  • we prented that what we do does not have a huge impact on other people.

Thanks to Catherine Van Holder for pointing me to this video.