Archive for May, 2008

I have written before about the perfection game and the Core protocols they come from.
During the core protocols session I gave last week in Paris, people asked me can I use this with people that don’t know about the core? IS knowing about the core enough, or should they have been to BootCamp (The 1 week course were people learn to use the core protocols)

Yes you can. Decider, The perfection game, our two examples that work very well with non-booted people. Or people that don’t know about the core protocols.

I use checkin with my kids. I know a few couples that use the core protocols a lot in their relation. There are lots of ways to the core use in a relation.

The example I gave last week was about using the perfection game to make your sex life better.

Before I dive into the example, let me first explain the structure of the game.

The perfection game has 3 steps:

A give a number from 1 till 10.

B Say what you like about it.

C say what could be improved to earn the missing points.

I remark: if you don’t have any practical idea’s on how to make things better you have to give 10.

So let’s give a fictional example of making your sex life better:

Person 1 says to person 2: Will you perfect the sexual action we had today

Person2 says: Yes I will

Person 2: I give it a 7 out of 10

What I liked about it:

  • We both had an orgasm.
  • We tried out a new position
  • It lasted long enough (More then 30 minutes)
  • it did not last too long (less then 2 hours)

To give it a 10:

  • we would have hugged each other at the end.
  • Afterwards we would have fallen asleep naked close to each other
  • you (person 1) would have started
  • the foreplay would have lasted longer

Now person 1 can implement some of the feedback or not.  Also note that person 2 gave 7 out of ten, this means that the “advice” he/she gives is only worth 3 point although he/she gives 4 tips to improve the sexlife of P1 & P2. (It could be the opposite around: only one tip but worth 7 points)


During most of my workshops I am using hourglasses.  It works great for facilitated meetings and standups.
Next to that it works great to have them in a meeting room.
The rules for a meeting are: anyone that thinks that a discussion in the meeting is taking too long, can turn it around and tell his co-meeter: lets discuss this only for this amount of time. After that the people vote together if they want to keep on discussing or go on.

Last Monday during another successful GTD/personal kanban course, I got again the question about where I bought them.

These days I buy them at Team Building Shop
You can also buy them from amazon. I use


  1. Avoid Alliteration.
  2. Prepositions dangle awkwardly if you use them to end sentences with.
  3. Avoid clichés and colloquialism like the plaque, or you will seem old hat.
  4. Employ the vernacular, while eschewing arcane and obfuscate verbiage.
  5. Avoid ampersands & abbreviations, etc.
  6. Take it easy with parenthetical remarks (however relevant) to avoid chopping up sentences (unnecessarily (we might add)).
  7. To ever, however artfully, split an infinitive, marks you as grammatically challenged.
  8. Skip the foreign words and phrases you know, n’est-ce pas?
  9. Never generalize.
  10. ‘I hate quotations. Tell me what you know’ Ralph Waldo Emerson.
  11. Comparisons can clog up writing as badly as alliterations and cliches.
  12. Avoid redundancy and verbosity, or readers will think you are repeating yourself and using too many words as well besides.
  13. We really get @*&%$**)!! when you use vulgarities.
  14. Clear, specific writings beats vagueness, we suppose, Whatever.
  15. Overstatement totally destroys any credibility you ever had before.
  16. Understatements can, at times, perhaps shade a point to the point of it’s fading a way.
  17. One word sentences? Eliminate.
  18. Analogies work about as well as fur on a flounder.
  19. “Is” just sits there. Pick verbs that mean something.
  20. Even if a mixed  metaphor sings, you should derail it.
  21. Who needs rhetorical questions?
  22. Its dstrakting too punctuat, an spel rong?

Update: I received that list from a friend, years ago. I have no idea from where it comes. If you know the author, please tell me and I will give credit.


As part of my first year of my GTO training, I have to do an exam Psychology next Wednesday.

Next to the things I learned about ratifications on which I posted in blogs about positive and negative ratifications and 5 conditions for effective punishments

I also learned a few surprising things while reading / studying the book Psychology from Marc Brysbaert:

  1. The main cause of a flatulence ulcer (maagzweer) is a bacterium. (And not stress) [P. 587]
  2. Schizophrenia is not the same as multiple personality disorder [P. 600]
  3. People with a high IQ at 11 year live longer. [P. 526] And it’s a myth that these children have problems in other parts of their life.
  4. Myers-Briggs-Type-Indicator (MBTI) is not reliable. Apparently have different investigations proven that of people that retake the test 5 weeks later, 50% get a different result. [P. 551]
  5. Midlife crisis does not exist [P 475]